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We allow ourselves to be trained (often with valid reasons) to hate the communists, the capitalists, the religious fundamentalists, the atheists, the liberals, the conservatives, the pro-lifers, the pro-choicers, the colored, the whites… - basically anyone who does not conform to our views and/or is different.
All we need to do is take a huge step back and realize that “they” are not the enemy. There is no “they”. “They” are US. The enemy is hatred itself - an alien entity, a cancer that we invite (no thought can take root unless we let it) to our minds to soil and tear us apart, when in our core, we are all connected.
When we hate someone (no matter how justified the reason is), it is akin to shooting ourselves in the foot. Hating drains us. Loving frees us; it brings us back to our true essence and purpose. And love loves unconditionally.
So, how do we do this? Just observe and learn from the little kids. They know better.
This is not to say that we have to pretend that all is well, when it is not. We can vehemently differ on our views, but without seeing the person through the filter of his/her views. A person’s identity is not his/her views, even though some are inseparably connected to theirs. With time, views evolve.
Look beyond the wrapping paper; the scene is beautiful behind the all the labels and the walls created by the ego.
If I speak with human eloquence and angelic ecstasy but don’t love, I’m nothing but the creaking of a rusty gate.
If I speak God’s Word with power, revealing all his mysteries and making everything plain as day, and if I have faith that says to a mountain, “Jump,” and it jumps, but I don’t love, I’m nothing.
If I give everything I own to the poor and even go to the stake to be burned as a martyr, but I don’t love, I’ve gotten nowhere. So, no matter what I say, what I believe, and what I do, I’m bankrupt without love…
Master: Why do people scream at one another in anger?
Disciple: I don’t know, because they are distant from each in thought?
Master: No, they may be standing right next to each other.
Disciple: Then why master?
Master: Because their hearts are not close.
When two hearts are close they can communicate in a gentle voice.
When two hearts become entwined, they can speak in whispers.
When two hearts are one, no speech is necessary.
Unconditional acceptance is not about “I’m right, you are wrong, but for the sake of love and peace, let’s hold hands and sing Kumbaya”.
Unconditional acceptance comes from the posture of knowing that all of us needs grace, because we are all works in progress.